If one takes it then they've got it!

 It is good to remind myself occasionally that if I understood all  it would be easy to forgive all. It is good to forgive. It benefits the forgiver rather than the forgiven. I try to be geared up for the

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positive. Any benefit to the forgiven is entirely up to the forgiven. It is their acceptance. Only the forgiven can be in charge of acceptance. In any case, it is never profitable to take an offense. Only offensive people take offenses, who else would accept offenses except an offensive person?