Anything without will first have come from within...

What goes in comes out.

In order to project something on someone else, the bald fact is it must first come from within. Jesus said if we just say we what we like to do, that means we might as well have done it already. This is the spirit within every man manifesting itself, which was the main theme of His entire ministry. That is first the unseen within and when expressed, the seen. Never take offenses, leave them wherefrom they come. That is my view. Whatever is done in the heart is done already.

Only the offensive can give offenses, 

But if I do not take them.

I do not become 

offensive myself.